I remember eagerly waiting for our beloved, breaths away from being 12-years-old, daughter to return from a pre-birthday trip to New York City, I found myself with plenty of things to do and not much desire to do any of them. So I sat. I moped in the family room, in full blown emotional prickliness, partly because of my deep desire to see my kid. But mostly due to the now inescapable knowledge that I had acted against my better judgment and, in doing so, hurt my child. Continue reading The Pain of Inauthenticity
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Are You Up to the Test?
Testing Your Followers
My 12-year-old daughter took a test to advance from green belt with one stripe to green belt with two stripes in the martial art Tang Soo Do (Think Chuck Norris). Her instructors, all Black Belts, measured her academic and physical knowledge. But more importantly, they measured her dedication to mastering the intangible aspects of being a Tang Soo Do practitioner, her heart.
As a leader there will be a time when you must test your followers. I don’t mean a weird, manipulative test of loyalty or anything like that. I mean an evaluation given by an authority (you or your Designate) to determine their level of competency in a given area. A TEST.
So how do you do test your followers and not damage your credibility or their self-respect? Continue reading Are You Up to the Test?
Testing Your Followers
RELEASING:
The Limits of ‘Holding Space’
The phrase ‘holding space’ or ‘ holding the
space’ has been cropping up in my Facebook news
feed quite a bit lately.
In the most recent article, the
author defines holding space…”It means that we are willing to walk alongside another person in whatever journey they’re on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome. When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement [sic] and control.” (See post.) Beautiful.